Being a mom is easily the most exhausting thing I have ever done. Not just physically but emotionally, mentally and spiritually too. Every first time mom is honestly just trying to do her best but if they are anything like me, they are just blindly chugging along trying to be perfect.
It’s easy to feel the pressure of being the “perfect” mom because if you go online, all you will read are the exact do’s and dont’s of raising your babies.
“You’re baby should eat between 4-6 ounces at 3 months.”
Well shoot. My boys will sometimes take 3 ounces and sometimes take 7.
“You’re baby should do at least 30 minutes to an hour of tummy time a day.”
I think I went like two weeks without actual “tummy time”.
“Here is the fail-proof way to get your baby to sleep through the night.”
Jax and Indy wake up twice a night after trying the fail-proof way.
Does that mean I am a bad mom OR that maybe there isn’t a perfect way to “mom”? Does that mean my babies aren’t normal or that every baby is different? For a while, I thought the internet had all the answers but I am coming to learn that every baby IS different and maybe more importantly, every mom is different. I spent too much time surfing the web (do people still say that?) trying to find all the answers and 90% of the time they never work for me.
I am learning that the best way for me to raise my babies is to trust my heart and raise Jax and Indy the way I feel is right. No website, no doctor, and no other person (I get way to much input on how I should do things) knows my boys like I do. Obviously some advice is good and even appreciated but at the end of the day a mama’s gotta do what a mama’s gotta do.
I fully believe my babies were sent to Jordan and I for a reason. We won’t be perfect parents (that already happened when I hit Jax in the face with my camera on accident) but we are the perfect parents for Jax and Indy. God trusts us to raise my angels in the best way we know how and that is enough.
So to all you moms out there. Trust yourself. Listen to what your heart is saying. Love your babies. Do your best. That is enough. Your babies will love you. God will be proud of you and You will be an even better mom then you realize.